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The fact your man finds himself in the company of cheaters, spurs the tendency to equally cheat on you since all his companies don’t see anything wrong in what they are doing and also since cheating is in the nature of man.
The urge and the need to always have an experiment and try something new become inevitable. This calls for concerns on the part of the woman to look for ways to keep her man from cheating on her.
1. Let him know that you are aware!
Scarily right? Yes, it is. If you let him know that you are aware of what he is doing, this will serve as a deterrent to cheating because the urge to cheat is hiding under the disguise of deceit and the desire to deceive.
So when he realizes that you are aware of his activities, he wouldn’t want to continue especially when he is wondering what is cooking up in your mind?
2. Let Him be Your hero.
Husbands’ literary want to be in charge of their homes and the life of their wives including sex life, so let him. Most men don’t cheat because they don’t love you anymore. Men cheat because they want more variety in their sex lives.
Sometimes, we are faced with a fear of what might happen. This fear can stop us from being open to different sexual experiences. You should allow your man to try new things with you. If you don’t, you are given someone room to do it.
This is not same as engaging in a sexual activity you find wired but something new rather than doing the same thing every time.
3. Prioritize your Relationship
Quite a good number of times, when a man cheats, you will find the woman is also having an “affair” that’s not sexual. It’s more socially appropriate. This “affair” takes the form of prioritizing something, anything, over the relationship. This could be a job, children, a sick relative, a charity or anything that puts her man lower on her totem pole than the first position.
Prioritize your relationship over everything else. This is the relationship you want to last for all your life. Other things will fade away and the relationship will still be there if you tend to it carefully.
4. Learn his love language
One way to keep your guy from cheating on you is to learn his love language. According to Dr. Gary Chapman in his book titled the five love languages, says, ‘Learn your man’s love language and speak it to him regularly’. He will know he is loved and remain true to you.
Sometimes when women “get” the guy and get married, they begin to get a false sense of security. Remember, all relationships are voluntary though with a sense of commitment.
A person can leave at any time. With increasing rate of divorce on daily basis, we need to remember how important it is to maintain a positive relationship, so as to prevent your husband or man from cheating and simply not about acquiring one.
5. Let him have time to himself
Being married does not translate to losing your freedom. Some men cheat because they begin to feel hemmed in by the relationship.
Engaging in an affair can provide them the sense of freedom they lose in a relationship. Allow your man time for himself without you. Don’t try to monopolize all your guy’s time.
Be open to time apart for him to spend with friends, pursue hobbies, etc. so he does not feel he has no freedom.
6. Don’t become too controlling
Often without realizing it, when we get into relationships we attempt to control the other person to do what works best for us.
We engage in destructive relationship habits such as complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing or rewarding to control.
The above-listed habits is a sure way of making your man go outside to vent air which might end him up in cheating, so such habits can be avoided even though, the urge to do so is inherent in us.
7. Don’t over-accommodate
One thing is given, your partner some space, another thing is to be too accommodating. Sometimes in a relationship, a woman can become too accommodating. Men get into relationships with a very clear picture of what a lifetime partner looks like and this is often in stark contrast to whom he may have dated casually.
Women work to become the person their partner wants them to be and in doing so, they lose themselves. One day, their man realizes this is what he asked for but he isn’t sure it’s what he really wants, and when this happens, he tends to look outside for something else. Maintain a healthy sense of self in your relationship.
8. Mesmerize him
Exercise hygiene. Wear nice, form-flattering garments, which don’t necessarily have to be expensive. Keep your hair clean and neat. Make sure that your man never forgets what turned him on to you in the first place, but be careful to not always stay the same either.
Competition is tough out there and some women may just want your man because he’s taken, as the saying goes, “People want what they can’t have.” You can be sure they’ll put up a fight. So stop your man from cheating by mesmerizing him.
9. Keep the sex hot
Never make the mistake of getting too boring when it comes to sex. It may just be the very thing that holds your relationship together in a trying time. There is plenty of books about how to keep yourself stimulated sexually even if you are not in the mood.
Get sexually educated and ensure that it is never a burden for your man to have sex with you. Find out what pleases him and do your best to meet his expectations. Tell him yours. He wouldn’t mind meeting your sexual needs this has proven to keep the relationship and also prevented cheating in relationships
10. Be spontaneous
Guys can be a little ornery when they’re exhausted, so you might not always have much luck with the direct approach when the opportunity seems to present itself.
Regular sex life is great for your health, it is wrong for couples to go for weeks even months without having sex. This can be equated to closing down a mall and crying out loud it will cause your spouse or man to shop elsewhere. Keep the mall open and an affair will be the last thing on his mind.
11. Set aside a date night
Most couples can find at least one night a week when they can both make some free time. If you have kids, send them to Grandma’s and get your guy to commit to saving that night for you every week. This will surely keep him interested in you and also prevent him from cheating
12. Morning sex
Every man I know loves sex in the morning. Half the time his body is ready when he wakes up in the morning. So always try and give him that morning sex as this will prevent him from cheating. It is wrong for couples to go for weeks even months without having sex.
This can be equated to closing down a mall and crying out loud it will cause your spouse or man to shop elsewhere. Keep the mall open and an affair will be the last thing on his mind.
13. Keep in touch throughout the day
Both partners should work hard not to withdraw. In order to have a positive relationship, you need to communicate on a constant basis. It’s important not to let things fester. You need to be so on top of your relationship that you spot little changes in the dynamic before they become big changes by doing this; talk to him about his day – every day.
Text him an “I love you” or call him during the day to see how his day is going. Don’t do this so much you’re disrupting his work, but do it here or there to let him know you’re thinking about him. Don’t forget the art of listening. It’s really important in relationships. The summary of what am saying is that constant communication is very essential.
14. Drop the constant criticism
Yes, sometimes he doesn’t put away his socks. Or he came home too late or forgot to do something around the house. Just make sure you don’t harp on him every single day about this or that; Men want to feel appreciated too. So avoid negative relationship habits such as blaming, threatening, punishing, or criticizing.
You could make a list of things you nag him about and cross out half of them to consciously reduce the criticism.
15. Be soft on the person, tough on the issue
If you are upset about something he did, when communicating with him, separate the person from the issue. Gently remind him you think he’s a good person, or you know he didn’t mean to make a mistake, but you felt sad when he did.
Relationships are different and more serious than dating or courting. You should not bring your past relationships into your family as couples. As a lady don’t let your conversation lead to past feeling thereby springing up old/past relationships. This might ignite old flames that might do you more harm.
This type of action has led to several cheating habits. Let your past girlfriends or boyfriends understand that you cannot hang out as you used to. Your better half should not have to deal with it. It is your priority to make sure your past is not hanging around your present
16. Be Ready to receive again when he comes back to you
A quote by Jay Leno ‘CNN found that Hillary Clinton is the most admired woman in America. Women admire her because she’s strong and successful. Men admire her because she allows her husband to cheat and get away with it’. It is a scary truth but be ready to receive your man, after all, he is still your man.
You should Participate in your relationship/ marriage and allow some constant and reasonable growth to take place. This is very vital. If you don’t, your spouse will find someone else to grow with and this will surely lead to a cheating habit. Be willing to change without losing yourself. You should endeavor to make progress and that it is your nature.
If one partner feels like the other one is dragging behind, then a vacuum is created. This may create room for cheating, causing another woman to take your place who will ‘understand’ your spouse or man more.
17. Always communicate
Communication is very vital when it comes to building a strong lasting relationship with your spouse or man. Most cheating habits arise due to lack of good communication between you and your spouse or man. Always be open to telling him what you need.
Humans do not have the ability to read minds so he won’t know what is in your mind. If you feel he is not listening to you, let him know. Talk about your dreams, your future, your expectations etc.
18. Dress up and look attractive to him
Don’t let your dress sense cause your spouse or man to look outside. Probably he starts cheating on you before your start sprucing up and changing rags. Look good, don’t let yourself go just because you gave birth.
Even if you added weight, there are still beautiful plus sized dresses out there in the market. You don’t have to be in rags because you’re no longer the petite you.
19. Don’t starve him of sex because you want to punish him
As a lady, don’t send your husband or man out sexually hungry? Remember, a hungry man will eat even what may not be appetizing. Don’t be the reason for his extra affair. Always talk things out; stop holding out just because you are angry with him, that will keep him from cheating.
Remember men desire sex as they desire food. Help your man feel desired by expressing your love in a physical way, make him feel you are the best he can ever have.
20. Become best friends
Being a friend to your spouse or man is the very first step in building a good relationship and will keep your man from cheating. As friends, you share your lives together. Lots of affairs or relationship that lead to romance began just by friendship, friendship in a relationship is vital because it goes a long way in keeping your husband or man and also preventing him from cheating.
In relationships, if you want to know how to keep your man from cheating, you have to understand him and all that he needs, this may take some time but when you get it right, you will surely enjoy your relationship with a more relaxed mind.