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Do not get involved with a married man
A married man is a dangerous territory. He is somebody’s husband and he might be someone’s dad. He is taken. Encouraging a married man to flirt with you or to have relations with a married man will only leave you feeling used, hurt and alone later on. Even if a married man fills you up with all kinds of stories of how unhappy he is with his wife or that he is sticking to the relationship only because of his kids, do not get carried away. You are only hurting another woman by getting into a relationship with a married man. What is the guarantee that such a man would stay loyal to you? If he genuinely likes you, he should first divorce his wife and only then approach you. That is how a proper gentleman would behave. A married man who flirts with you might only want to have a sexual relationship with you. Do you only want a sexual relationship too? It might get even worse for your reputation, if his wife comes to know and lashes out at you in public. Obviously you do not want a show down with anyone! If not then you should beware of these obvious telltale signs that a married man who is flirting with you only wants to sleep with you.
1. He will ‘bump’ into you often
A married man who wants to sleep with you will try to create more opportunities for bumping into you. You might find yourself bumping into him almost wherever you go. Initially, you might think its sheer coincidence, but if it happens more than twice then obviously he is stalking you or he already knows your whereabouts. He secretly tries to be present wherever you go so that both of you get a chance to know each other better. If he is a married but shy man, he will first try to meet you often and create a rapport than approaching you directly.
2. He behaves differently in public and in person with you
Now this is a very dangerous signal and it should warn you right away. A married man is quite concerned about his image publicly. He might behave very cool and professional with you in public but he becomes a totally different person when you meet him in person. The married man is obviously telling you with his body language that he only wants to sleep with you. He might show you a completely different side of his personality when you meet him in person like touching you often, being extra sweet to you or making a lot of eye contact with you.
3. An obvious sign: a married man checks you out
If you catch the married man secretly checking you out when you are looking away, then it’s an obvious sign that he wants to sleep with you. Probably, he is a shy man and scared of asking you directly and so he will tell you with his body language of his secret intentions. You often find him staring at you rather indecently. He is imagining all the time about his experience of sleeping with you.
4. By buying gifts, he gives obvious signs
If a married man wants to sleep with you, he will try to get into you good books at first. He will buy you costly gifts and even send you flowers. These are the easiest way to impress a woman. Though you might get flattered by his gifts, always know his true intentions behind and until unless you want to go in for a casual fling, do not meddle with a married man.
5. He will flirt with you if he wants to sleep with you
While casual flirting in the office with colleagues and acquaintances is fine, if a married man tries to flirt too much with you, then you must discourage him then and there. Laughing at this jokes or paying too much attention to what he says might give him a green signal. You should lead him on and should disengage from the situation as soon as possible.
6. If he wants to sleep with you, he will run favors
A married man who wants to sleep with you will do all sorts of favors for you to impress you. He will lend you a sympathetic ear if you are going through some sort of crisis. He will lend you money, run errands for you and try to buy you costly gifts. He might even take you out for dinners and lunches. He only aims at getting close to you and to get into your good books. Eventually, you get so indebted by his favors that it would be tough for you turn him down when he asks you to spend the night with him. So, if you see no reason for a married man to suddenly start being extra sweet to you, you need to disengage yourself from the situation right then. It is not only wrong to lead him on but also very dangerous for you safety and reputation.
7. He will try to gain your sympathy
A married man who secretly has the hots for you will try to win your sympathy by telling you his sob stories. He might cook up all sorts of stories about how unhappy he is with his wife or how lonely he is in his married life. Do not get carried away by him if he tells you that he always had a crush towards you. While he may be speaking the truth but you should never let a married man sleep with you. If he is so unhappy with his wife and so much in love with you, he could divorce her first and then get into a relationship with you. It is a common approach used by married men who want to have extra marital affairs only to perk up their bored sex lives. Do not let yourself be used by such men who only look at you like sex dolls.
8. Obvious signs are when he compliments you a lot
Who doesn’t like compliments! But you get to know from the body language of a person whether he genuinely means those compliments or has other intentions behind them. A casual compliment by a married colleague of yours could be ‘You look great today’ or ‘this new haircut suits your face’. But if the compliments get too personal like ‘Your perfume smells great’ or ‘you have an awesome figure’, then you got to be aware of his body language and his intentions. You should turn him down immediately by coming up with some witty remarks or just acknowledge and walk away. That is the best way to discourage a married man without being rude.
9. He takes a lot of interest in your personal life
If a married man who suddenly gets very interested in your personal life, then perhaps, he secretly wants to sleep with you. He wants to get close to you, know you better, your likes and dislikes and even your hobbies. Why is he suddenly so interested in your personal life? Do you find anything strange with his body language or his sudden inclination towards you? Do you think it is normal? Well, you will be the best judge of the situation and you should discourage him immediately from getting too personal with you. If you answer to all this queries happily, he might get the notion that you are interested in sleeping with him too.
10. A married man will not talk about his personal life
Some married men are very smart and avoid talking about their personal lives completely. They want to give an impression to their colleagues that they are bachelors. They even change the topic if you ask them about their married lives. Such men are dangerous too. A gentleman is happily married, he would tell his friends so and if he is going through some issues, he would tell his friends that too. But a person who hides his personal life with his friends and behaves like an eligible bachelor, then he secretly wants to lure women only for sex.
11. He attempts to spend some time alone with you
If a married man wants to sleep with you, he will create opportunities for spending some time alone with you. He might take you for business meets alone or tell you to stay back in the office for some discussion. He secretly wishes to spend time alone with you and make the most of the opportunity. It is unwise to get carried away or agree to spend time alone in the office with a married man, whose body language you are not comfortable with.
12. He wants to know if you are seeing someone
Apart from showing interest in your personal life, if a married man who also happens to be your office colleague or acquaintance asks you whether you are seeing someone for not, then it is clear that he is interested in you. He wants to make sure if you are single or in a relationship. He wants to make sure whether you are an easy catch with whom he could satisfy his sexual urges.
A married man can be a shy man too and unlike other frivolous men might genuinely get attracted towards you. But, whether a shy man or a bold man, a married man is a married man. He is someone else’s life partner and until unless he dissolves his first relationship completely, you should refrain from any kind of sexual relationship with a married man. There is nothing wrong if a married man wants to sleep with you. Lust, desire, and love can happen anytime. But it is very wrong to have two love relationships at the same time. At times, women find it tough to know if a married man is interested in him. They innocently respond to his questions and offers without having any doubts. They just find him sweet thinking all the time that how lucky his wife is to have a partner like him; little do they know that such men are mean and disloyal in reality. Next time you see a married man with such signs, you need to shut him down immediately. It will save you from a lot of tensions and trouble and he should also know how wrong his behavior is.