From sleeping to swimming, here you 20 simple ways to thrust the lust back into your life.
1. Go to bed . . . . and actually sleep
Is your partner always complaining they are too tired for sex? Let them get 40 winks.
The Journal Of Sexual Medicine found that the longer you sleep, the better you enjoy sex.
So a lie-in could ramp up the desire in your relationship.
2. Start swimming
A few lengths in the local pool can do wonders for sex satisfaction.
Breath work helps with controlling your rhythm and makes for a better lover, say sex therapists.
A British Heart Foundation survey in 2015 found swimmers make the best lovers.
3. Eat oysters
They really are an aphrodisiac.
The slimy sea snack are high in arginine, an amino acid that regulates blood flow and is an ingredient in Viagra.
The protein-rich substance helps to treat low testosterone.
Other foods high in arginine are fish and lean proteins such as chicken.
4. Talk dirty
Chatting about sex with your partner outside the bedroom leads to more satisfaction in it.
Sharing fantasies means you both become more adventurous in the sack.
The University of Kentucky in the US found that couples who talk about sex are happier with their lovemaking.
The 3,000 participants in the study also said kinkier sex made them more satisfied.
5. Stop being spontaneous
Spontaneity can make for a great sex life, but real life can spoil the moment.
To foster intimacy with your partner, make time to get it on.
Find times and days that work for you both – with the occasional unplanned flight of passion.
This way you’ll not face frustration when your partner turns you down to pull a late shift at work.
6. Drink coffee
Hot drinks raise your body temperature and make others feel warmer towards you, a 2008 study found.
Participants consistently felt closer to a person holding a hot coffee rather than an iced one.
7. Put sex top of your to-do list
The washing might need doing and the bins taking out, but sex should come first.
Psychologist Dr John Gottman says his research found that couples who say they have great sex lives put sex before chores.
A study at the University of California in Los Angeles showed that people who view intimacy as an optional extra when they have time typically have bad sex.
8. Get high
Booze can lead to a lack of sensitivity, and as a result, a lacklustre time in bed.
But scientists at Thomas Jefferson University in Philidelphia found that taking CBD, or cannabidiol – an active substance found in cannabis – helps to ease stress and anxiety, including performance anxiety, and increases blood flow to promote the body’s own natural lubrication.
9. Make eye contact
Couples who look each other in the eye have stronger relationships and it can increase intimacy too, according to a 1989 study in academic publication the Journal Of Research In Personality.
Staring into your partner’s eyes for a minute or two starts to produce love chemical phenylethylamine.
This natural amphetamine can increase sensations of pleasure too.
10. Be touchy
A brush of the arm or a light touch on the back can make partners more open to some loving.
A French study from 2006 found women were more likely to give their number to a man who touched their arm than those who didn’t.
Just make sure the touch is welcomed, otherwise it’s a bit creepy.
11. Pucker up
Not surprisingly, kissing your partner more leads to a healthier and happier sex life.
A study in scientific publication the Journal Of Sex And Marital
Therapy asked couples how often they kissed before and during love-making.
They found smooching outside the bedroom led to more sex.
And couples who kissed more during sex had more orgasms.
12. Go solo
Sex therapists recommend self love to find out what turns you on and what doesn’t.
Invite your partner to watch and show them what gets your juices going.
13. Get competitive
Contesting anything from a triathlon to a game of Monopoly can give your love life a boost.
It doesn’t matter if you win or lose, just entering a contest can boost testosterone production by 24 per cent.
A study in academic journal Evolution And Human Behavior found this increases libido in women.
14. Be socksy
A Dutch study asked couples if they wore socks to bed.
Eighty per cent of those who did told the University of Groningen researchers that they reached orgasm during sex.
Scientists think the success rate is due to a warmer body temperature meaning better blood flow to the nether regions.
15. See the funny side
Sex doesn’t have to be all sultry looks and passionate moments.
Women who sleep with funny fellas have better orgasms, according to a study in the journal Evolutionary Psychology.
It also found that funny people are deemed more attractive – presumably getting them laid more often too.
16. Get your blood pumping
Tricking your body into thinking it is aroused is easy after a run or a spin class.
If you see your partner while your heart rate is still high, your brain thinks you are aroused.
The effect is called the “transfer of excitation” by scientists.
17. Lust, not love
If having a one-night stand seems exciting, the reality could actually live up to the expectation.
Scientists at Liberos, a sex research lab at the University of California, Los Angeles, found that subjects who weren’t in a relationship had better sex than couples did.
They likened the experience to meeting an exciting new partner on a dating site.
18. Be a modern couple
Women who pair off with wimpy guys have better sex.
A study in sexology journal the Archives Of Sexual Behavior found that women who believe their partner is dominant or selfish have fewer orgasms.
Conversely, women who wear the trousers are much better satisfied sexually.
19. Get the house red
Chianti, malbec or a merlot have been proven to give couples the horn.
Although alcohol can actually decrease sensation where it counts, Italian scientists – of course – found the best tipple before a night of passion is a glass of red wine.
They found compounds in the drink heighten sensation, especially for women.
If you want to score big-time, run a nice bath, pour yourself a drink, whack on an Enya CD and relax.
Getting stressed is the worst enemy of your sex drive, as the stress hormone cortisol can reduce testosterone levels in both men and women, leading to a lack of passion.
Worrying too much can not only affect your nervous system but also means you are not mentally attuned for sex.